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  • Mom Guilt

    We have all been here. One way or another the creature known as “mom-guilt” has come to hold us captive in our own minds. To put it simply: it feels like you’re ruining your kids and it sucks. Shaking free of mom guilt is an incredibly difficult task. Mainly because it is tailored to fit each and everyone of us differently and uniquely.It sinks its claws in and holds on tight. Our husbands can’t help us with it because they don’t lay in bed toiling over the fact that maybe they yelled a little too loud or “tainted their kids” because you could literally not handle another outing with your…

  • How to survive a long distance friendship

    We all want friends to sit at our table and to find “our person”. Occasionally we luck out and do find those special people we tie ourselves to indefinitely. We also find ourselves inevitably going through life transitions that put significant strain on our relationships. We leave for school, get married, have babies, or just move somewhere new and far away. As if finding friends to keep wasn’t hard enough, let the challenge begin. How to keep things fresh from afar When something major happens you know just who to call, make sure you acknowledge the weight of the situation on both ends of things. “Hey I’m moving across country”…

  • Postpartum Care

    The hardest part of postpartum care is knowing when it is good to ask for help or just open up to a friend or your significant other for validation. Because let’s face it sometimes we just don’t know. We’re exhausted from sleep deprivation and everything in and out of our bodies is out of wack. Almost nothing is harder than acknowledging the fact that you don’t know what you’re doing and neither does your baby. Talk about a steep learning curve! How are we supposed to figure this out?! Let’s start with it’s always a good time for validation. You are working incredibly hard feeding, changing, and soothing baby. Not…

  • What do I really need in my hospital bag?

    Whether you’re a first time mom or a mom veteran there comes a point in pregnancy where one asks “okay, I need to pack my bag but what the hell do I put in it?!” If you’re an expert planner like myself you will rely on your mom friends to tell you what their must-haves were. As a mom of three I feel seasoned enough to make you the ultimate hospital bag guide! For Mom The Paperwork: ID/insurance card/birth plan Lip balm, seriously my #1 item. Hospital air is SO dry. Organic Perineal Balm by Earth Mama, get at least two jars so you can use it heavily! Dermoplast spray…

  • I lost my battle today…

    Today I cried… I lost my temper with my kids for the dozenth time. I thought about how my one year old used to be happy and now he’s miserable every month usually from a new ear infection. So here we are at the doctor’s office again. Hopefully for a good reason. I want my happy baby back. I want my three year old to not scream at me every time he drops something. I unrealistically want my six year old to act like an adult. I yelled too much. I cussed too. More things were pulled out than put away. I wasn’t patient. The baby screamed the whole time…

  • Optimist with a Bad Attitude

    The sun has come out to glimmer hope on my most recent life challenge: packing up to move 2,000+ miles away from family and friends.This whole process has been full of angst and turmoil. After an emotional week from hell and with no concrete plans I’ve really been struggling with how to wrap my head around everything let alone get started on my mountain of tasks. I haven’t seen my husband in over a month and with my three boys… I feel like I am drowning. I’ve hit some lows that scare me to talk about. I have never wanted to end my own life but there were a few…

  • The Curse of the stay-at-home mom

    Dear mama, There is a good chance that if you are reading this you are probably beside yourself with exhaustion. There may be tears in your eyes and stains on your jeans because it has been “one of those days” so to speak, or weeks, or years. We wrangle the kids to and from the doctors, birthday parties, school, sports. We try to keep up on household work, the growing piles of dishes,  the mountain of laundry. Your hair is probably dirty and you may or may not have yesterdays mascara on if you were lucky enough to even wear mascara. Some research indicates that mothers often desire to go…

  • Gender Disappointment

    As a little girl I always wanted a sister. I was very young when my brothers were born but I never gave up hope despite dad being “fixed”. I was absolutely certain if nothing else one day I would wake up to one of my realistic baby dolls being alive. No such luck. My brothers were always close and I envied that closeness because I saw that same dynamic between sisters. As I grew older I desired to be a mother, I had other aspirations and still do, but being a mommy was always high on my list. It dawned on me over time that maybe boys were a better…

  • My Top Hair Care Tips

    Upkeep is one of the most important things you can do for your luscious locks, it doesn’t matter if you have curly hair, thin hair, oily hair, dry hair, or any other type of hair—certain hair care tips are truly universal Here are my main hair care takeaways for all my lovely ladies. Enjoy! HAIR CARE TIP #1: CONDITION CORRECTLY On the off chance you didn’t know, you should use conditioner regularly. Are you sure you’re using it the right way? I have many clients who complain of dry skin and what is the first thing we do to help with dry skin? Apply lotion. When we have dry skin…

  • Hiding In Plain Sight

    There’s no easy way to realize that you’ve slipped from “hanging in there” to “I’m not okay”. It can be even harder to share the information with your significant other, or best friend, or your family. It’s terrifying. You ask yourself questions like: How do I get help? How do I even begin to talk about what’s weighing me down? Will my insurance cover this? It’s a daunting process to say the least. You don’t want to upset family, you don’t want them to think that you’re on the brink of suicidal tendencies. You’re not so distraught that you want to end your life. I’ve been in these shoes. I’ve…